Self-Realisation

The thought manifests as the word:
The word manifests as the deed;
The deed develops into habit;
And habit hardens into character;
So watch the thought and its ways with care,
And let it spring from love
Born out of concern for all beings… 

As the shadow follows the body,
As we think, so we become.
            Dhammapada

We can support self-realisation for our children and for ourselves. There are skills and strategies that create self-empowered, resilient children and capable decision makers.

One of our aims in parenting is to support our children to be self-empowered. There is a lot of talk these days about empowerment. Many people believe we can empower others, but that is not true. Empowerment is something that comes from inside the individual. It is a drive. As outsiders we can provide an environment that may trigger or support this drive, but we cannot actually empower someone else.

How we can support our children to be empowered is by providing them with the opportunity and then the skills and tools to do it. To be empowered children need skills in compassionate communication, solution finding, and decision making, and they need life skills in general. They also need strong self-esteem and an understanding that they are in charge of their life and that their actions result in effects. They need an understanding of Buddhist philosophy, which they can gain even if they have never read the Dharma.

As parents we want our children to be resilient to the hardship and events in life that can cause pain and suffering. Resilience also safeguards our children against becoming involved in activities that may cause them harm such as drug taking, reckless behaviour and crime. The combination of Buddha Heart Parenting and Buddhist principles build resilience and strength in our child.

Buddha Heart Parenting provides us with specific skills, strategies and techniques to build resilience in our children.

With sustained effort and sincerity
Discipline and self-control
The wise become like islands
Which no flood can overwhelm.
            Dhammapada